PASS THE PEN #5
Hamilton Introduces Kristen
When our significant others enter the story, it only makes sense that each of the guys would introduce their spouses. As the chronology of our story unfolds, each member of Core will have the opportunity to share a few thoughts about their wives in their own words. The page is intentionally left blank, so to speak, so that there is freedom for the author to say whatever they want to about their wife. Krue was the first to go, introducing Hollee. Second up, Hamilton.
Kybz
It was January of my sophomore year in college when I attended a fraternity party in Greenville SC. I returned from the party that night and informed my roommates that I met the “perfect girl,” Kristen Kyburz. Her smile was the first thing that caught my eye only to be followed by her winsome, fun, and playful demeanor. At the end of my 20-minute salute to this wonderful girl, one of my roommates quickly responded with “Ham, you’ll never get a date with “Kybz.” She’s way too cool for you and besides, she’s a senior and not interested in a boyfriend with 2 years to go.” Gauntlet thrown down, challenge accepted!
Thirty-five years later, (thirty-three of those married), I have my “Kybz,” and we remain best friends. All marriages have their fair share of challenges, and ours is no exception. But to this day, we have maintained a friendship and relationship based on the premise that we are in it for the long haul and the sharp edges of life have been buffered by the grace of God. I know few women who are as kind, patient, and servant hearted as Kristen. She is an amazing mom, although she often says she is not a “natural mother,” whatever that means. When our kids need practical advice, they often call me. When they need emotional support, “mom” always gets the call, and rightfully so. She is slow to speak, quick to listen, and measured in her responses. She is faithful to her Lord, walks the walk, and is quick to learn from her mistakes.
When I first joined up with Core out of college, Kristen was nervous about the things we all shared in our group. Was I sharing too much personal stuff; was I somehow violating her trust in any way that might embarrass her and disparage our relationship? Thirty-three years later, she is quick to say “you need to meet with your guys, and tell ‘em everything, you need help!” She loves my friends, and they love her. She wouldn’t trade Core for anything in the world and understands that some things are better handled by peers. She fundamentally trusts that they have our best interest at heart, and she knows that group has made a huge impact on me as a husband, father, and friend.
I had no idea what impact “Kybz” would have on me 35 years ago, but I am eternally grateful that I was fortunate enough to get that date! And to this day, she still has that smile!
